23 March 2012

Oops... I'm Pregnant Again!

Fairly recently an article caused a stir in the men’s rights community called “How to Get Pregnant Without Him Knowing.” The title alone highlights the objective to educate female readers on how they can trick a man into creating a baby without his consent. Fortunately (or unfortunately, depending on how curious you are to read it) it’s been pulled down. I would guess this is because it drew a lot of attention, not least from MRAs, who discussed it in videos, forums and other online activity.

It was only when I sat down to write this article that I discovered it was gone (update: here it is). Therefore I am left feeling that it is even more essential that I complete my objective here, so men might be fully armed with the knowledge to combat ‘sperm theft’. The whole premise of this post may seem patronising. It might even seem ludicrous that an adult male may be unaware of details involving impregnation, but believe me it is far from either of these things.

Sperm theft is a very real problem in our present culture. According to a UK scientific review a median of 26.9% of men have been victims of paternity fraud, meaning that both father and alleged father have often been conned by a woman continuing her charade. Psychological studies also show that women hide their affairs far better than men. Still not convinced? How about the findings of a survey showing that 40% of 3000 pregnancies were unplanned? The BBC article states that:
"Of these, 62% blamed problems with the pill, 19% said it was due to a split condom, and 3% were too carried away to use contraception."
19% of unplanned pregnancies being down to a split condom is very high. It takes a lot to break a condom, especially if worn correctly. Personally I have never had a condom split. My own personal experiences make me feel that the likelihood of condoms splitting 7.6% of the time, which the survey would indicate occurred over 3000 pregnancies, is highly questionable. You would think that countless experiences of sexual intercourse with my wife with a condom would have garnered this result at least once. This is not the case.

Here is a list setting out the reliability of contraceptives across a wide variety of choices. You will immediately notice that the percentage chance to get pregnant after a year of sexual activity with any contraception increases significantly. The percentage chance of getting a woman pregnant with the condom after one year is 12%. This seems even higher than the survey, yet I have never experienced this occurring. After my wife gave birth to our daughter we both felt it would better to keep her body free of the effects of the contraceptive pill for the foreseeable future. The contraceptive pill dramatically affects the female menstrual cycle and hormone levels, so this is the reason for the decision. As such I have been using condoms now for almost two years. Again, no broken condoms, and no ‘bun in the oven’.

So how do we arrive at these questionable and somewhat meaningless figures? Unless we have far more observable conditions, for all 1200 cases of unplanned pregnancies in another survey, it’s hard to take someone’s word seriously. I’m sure we can also agree that creating a more observable survey would look more like a set to a new Jenna Jameson movie. So this isn’t likely to happen. Second, I think the pharmaceutical companies providing contraception have a vested interest in suggesting that the likelihood of contraception failing is actually much higher. That way companies can avoid being sued when things do occasionally fail to go according to plan. So something else is happening, and I’m sure we can guess that some people aren’t being completely honest.

The survey in the scientific article also suggests that 3% of unplanned pregnancies were from failure to put a condom on. Did the woman ‘convince’ the man that she was on the pill? Did she tell him that it would “be okay?” Of course men can whine about having sex with a condom, but is this common enough for 36 out of 1200 unplanned pregnancies to occur in this manner? One has to ask who was doing the convincing to ‘keep it off’?

Which leads us onto the biggest figure of unplanned pregnancies in the survey – the contraceptive pill. 62%, or 744 unplanned pregnancies occurred when the pill was unsuccessful. That’s a whopping 24.8% of the 3000 total pregnancies in the survey! Even according to the list of contraceptives 3% of women will become pregnant after one year of using the pill. This highlights a major discrepancy.

A BBC Talking Point poses the ironic question, “Would you trust a man to take the pill?” because apparently the male contraceptive pill could be available in 5 years. This was posted 12 years ago. So apart from the fact that a male pill will undoubtedly set men free from a lack of reproductive rights in the present climate, we also have to ask why on earth it’s taking so long to develop? In the meantime we can grow human ears on mice and send satellites into orbit around the earth. Call me paranoid, but it seems to me that too many people have a lot to gain from the financial servitude of men towards mothers.

But this is the least of men’s problems. We are supposed to believe that unplanned pregnancies are so common today that many simply accept it casually when we hear a woman say, “It was an accident.” I know two women who are presently pregnant 'by accident'. I also know another who recently had a baby when she accidentally became pregnant too. One basically admitted she lied. Anecdotal evidence yes, but are we truly naïve enough to believe the woman’s word every time, especially when relating to a reliable contraceptive like the pill?

Before my daughter was born, and before my wife and I were married, we relied on the contraceptive pill for around ten years. Not once in that time did my wife get pregnant. Not once did we need to deal with an unplanned pregnancy. One of the biggest reasons (or excuses) given for an unplanned pregnancy while on the pill is being on antibiotics. Really? To the extent that it’s such a common reason? To the point where as many as 24.8% of 3000 women in the survey got pregnant while on the pill? Besides, many doctors would let patients know about the risk of becoming pregnant due to this factor.

To truly understand why such high degrees of unplanned pregnancies are something to be sceptical about we need to understand the female menstrual cycle. This is broken up into the follicular phase, ovulation, and luteal phase. It’s during the fertile ovulation phase that the woman is most capable of conceiving.

Having sex as close to the start of ovulation as possible is best if pregnancy is the desired result. The newly formed egg will remain in the fallopian tube for around 3 days after being formed. If sperm are also in the fallopian tube during this 3 day period this will significantly increase the odds of fertilisation occurring.

After 3 days the egg will then travel down the fallopian tube and attach itself to the wall of the uterus, called the endometrium. If the egg is not fertilised it will eventually break off the wall of the uterus and slip away, taking a small amount of blood with it. At this point menstruation will begin anew.

In case you haven’t noticed this gives approximately 3 optimum days a month to get pregnant; the period when the egg is in the fallopian tube. This optimum period is not easy to calculate either, and as such women often use an ovulation calculator to figure out which part of the month this occurs in, which my wife used when we planned for the birth of our daughter. When this calculation is made it is possible to get pregnant remarkably quickly, if both the male and female are healthy of course. It took my wife and I six weeks of trying to succeed in getting her pregnant, though we were both armed with the correct information, and mutual determination to have a child.

What more, it’s highly unlikely that it would be so easy to get pregnant from missing the occasional pill here and there. The woman needs to terminate ingestion of the pill before the production of eggs from the ovaries begins to occur once more. This in itself poses the question of how many women aren’t taking the pill at all when they ‘accidentally’ fall pregnant?

Are the alarm bells ringing yet? The idea that getting a woman pregnant is a case of “wham bam thank you ma’am,” at any old time of day, is a myth. Yet here we are talking about ambiguous statistics of 40% of pregnancies being unplanned, condoms failing 12% of the time, which itself can result in women getting pregnant, and 24.8% of women getting pregnant on the pill! Not to mention that the morning after pill is always available for any unforeseen events. I think it’s time men woke up. It takes premeditated intent to get pregnant the vast majority of the time, especially given that women have never had it easier when it comes to controlling their bodies.

There certainly shouldn’t be anywhere near the amount of unplanned pregnancies that we are faced with in society today. My suggestion to men; wear a condom until you are ready to get a woman pregnant. It’s the only way to have peace of mind. And always remember that trust is a two-way street that takes time to build.


  1. Condoms are accurate form of protection and a good way of avoiding an unplanned pregnancy

  2. Making sure, of course, that you provide your own un-tampered with condom, and safely dispose of it afterwards. Desperate women have been known to sabotage condoms, or fish them out of bins, to inseminate themselves with!

    1. Good points. I wondered about mentioning it here but it's such a vast topic that I couldn't fit it all in. Needless to say I have more to add on the matter, which I will do in a video expanding on what is here.

  3. There recently was an article in a Dutch magazine about "Bar baby's." Women who intentionally hang around bars to pick up a good potential man to sleep with and trick him into pregnancy with the intention of getting a child, dumping the guy and receive alimony and child support to live on for the next 18 years. In their eyes, this is a win-win situation.

    Yes, there sure as hell are some sick women out there. Men, watch - the fuck - out!

    P.S. women who say/claim they got pregnant on accident where either careless or are lying 100%. Things like "it wasn't planned, but it's welcome" = when you decode it: "I tricked the sucker and don't want him to know."

    1. That article is describing a common occurrence entrapping men into fianncial servitude to women.

      I have more to say on this matter. By the time I'm done only bigots will dare to claim that 'accidental pregnancy' should be a occurrence.

  4. Your percentages are off. The failure rates are for sex, not compared to other people getting pregnant. So, what we do is take the 3% failure rate of the pill, and divid 744 by .03 which means that if there was no foul play 24,800 people had sex while relying on the pill. Now, using your link, 12% of condom users will get pregnant. So, 24,800x.12=2976. This is substantially higher than the actual number, and puts the pill in these cases as significantly less effective than it has been proven. Thus we can conclude that a large number of women intentionally did not take the pill.

  5. "Your percentages are off. The failure rates are for sex, not compared to other people getting pregnant."

    I'm not sure how you can draw that conclusion. I am specifically interpreting the BBC information. Your 24,800 figure is not something that directly relates to the study in the BBC article either. I also question your need to divide 744 by .03 too. You would have to multiply by .03 if you want to find 3% of this figure anyway.

    Besides, if you are going to assume that the pill is not as effective I have a recent medical journal that has come to my attention. That will put that idea to rest once I make my video on the subject.

  6. The BBC article says the pill fails 3% of the time. That means that you take the number of times people had sex, multiply by 3%, and that gives you the number of pregnancies that happened while on the pill. so sex*.03=pregnancies. We already have the number of pregnancies, so we know sex*.03=744, or in other words 744/.03=sex. This is how we get 24,800, which is our sample size.

    We then run the numbers of the rest of the study by ratio and show a predicted number of babies from condoms is nearly 3000. This is significantly more than the real world study here, and means the ratio is off. This is either because condoms are failing much less often than they should have because the people in this study were wearing ones made out of titanium, or the pill fails much more often than it should which means the women were either intentionally sabotaging it, or the women in the study are all not mentally capable of taking the pill with regularity.

    1. I can see where you're going with this. But what I was trying to highlight with the BBC article is that these figures of 'unplanned pregnancy,' and the social acceptance that this is 'normal,' is really based on naivety and gynocentrism. These figures are highly questionable, and ultimately rather meaningless.

      What we do know from objective scientific data, like the female menstrual cycle, and other research that I will present in the future, is that women getting pregnant takes a premeditated intent the vast majority of the time. In summary, many women are dishonest in this regard, and hide behind bad research, social bias, and confirmation bias through statistics.

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  8. I got the following hateful email from a woman named Kathy Grandt, from Port Richey, Florida, after she had received a link to my Boycott American Women blog. Here it is:

    From: Kathy Grandt
    To: John Rambo
    Sent: Wednesday, September 14, 2011 5:48 PM
    Subject: Re: Boycott American Women


    WOW. So if a man decides to NOT marry an American woman, he should be shot and murdered?

    THIS IS HOW HATEFUL, SEXIST, AND EVIL AMERICAN WOMEN HAVE BECOME. I suggest you write to Kathy and ask her why she is promoting MURDER of MEN? She is one sick woman, for sure. If anyone can track down where she works, we can also write to her employer and ask them why they are employing a woman who thinks it is okay to murder men.

    Here is her email: kwolv1@yahoo.com
    Here is her Facebook page: http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100001131547214

    The name of her daughter is Christina Costantino, and her daughter's Facebook profile is here: http://www.facebook.com/ccostantino1
    Christina's email is: lilcc2002@yahoo.com
    I suggest you write to her daughter and ask her why her mother has such deep hatred for men that she thinks it is okay to murder men.

  9. The ones I love to laugh at are the idiots who you hear complaining about how little money they make, then all of sudden they're having another little crumb cruncher.....as if that's going to improve their financial situation. Good post.

  10. I agree with you 100% that articles like "How to Get Pregnant Without Him Knowing” are absolutely disgusting and practices such as these fill me with sadness and disappointment. I do, however, question some of your statistics, rationalization and over all tone of your article. Some of these statistics regarding unplanned pregnancies seem shockingly high to me as well, rather than paint a picture of women as evil and scheming I also wonder about the demographics of the people surveyed.
    If the majority of people surveyed represent a demographic that tends to be under educated, then there is a higher chance that the forms of birth control used (if at all) were used improperly resulting in more unplanned pregnancies.

    I would be interested in hearing you expand on why a male version of bcp would " undoubtedly set men free from a lack of reproductive rights ". It seems that a man has every right to use a condom that he provides even if his partner says she's on the pill. Preventing unplanned pregnancies is, and should be, both partner's responsibility. For example, my partner knows that when we're traveling I'm more likely to forget to take the pill, so he'll ask me as a reminder. (It can be harder than you think) If I take it even more than an a few hours late, I let him know. So on and so forth.

    And also, this "What more, it’s highly unlikely that it would be so easy to get pregnant from missing the occasional pill here and there. The woman needs to terminate ingestion of the pill before the production of eggs from the ovaries begins to occur once more. "
    can vary greatly depending on the pill that the lady is on.

    There are some truly despicable people out there, but out of curiosity, how did your wife feel after reading this article? Or how would your daughter feel? The tone feels a little hateful to me. And I'm sure, that can't be what you intended as an advocate for male rights...

    I'd love to discuss this further.

    - A humanist.

    1. You're trying to correlation as a factor for causation by weakly suggesting that undereducated people are too stupid to use contraception in an overwhelming number of cases. It's not rocket science, and you'll have a tough time proving that one with anything more than conjecture, while I provide objective scientific data about the menstrual cycle.

      As for the rest of your dismissive and accusatory comments I think you need to stop trying to pass the buck of responsibility onto men, as usual in this culture, and stop empowering female irresponsibility in the process.

      By the way, there is now a medical journal showing that becoming pregnant while on the pill, and using antibiotics, is not a valid concern. What's more I resent your attempt to suggest that becoming pregnant on the pill is easy, unless a woman is missing pills for days on end on a consistent basis.

      I don't buy your humanist angle. How dare you derogatorily question whether my wife agrees with my views or not, least of all my daughter. My wife agrees with the appalling state of affairs we live in, where others make excuses for this terrible culture of declining female responsibility.

      I have other links and evidence I have formulated to further enforce my views, but I find your tone to be passive aggressive and mired on an ideological agenda.

      If you do decide to reply be warned that you'd better be far more intellectually honest and not take me for a fool.

  11. Wow, I am honestly sorry that my comment was so offensive to you. Nothing in it was intended to be passive aggressive or derogatory. I was sincerely hoping to enter a level headed conversation about this. I was hoping to learn a little in the process too. I was equally sincere when I asked to hear more of your views.

    I apologize for upsetting you.

    1. If you are indeed sincere then I recommend you avoid assumptions based on conjecture and emotional appeals. Also, using words like "hateful" don't help you to come across as sincere either.

      Trying to apply guilt-ridden rhetoric about my wife and daughter was also a low blow that came across as an ulterior motive.

  12. You say "26.9% of men have been victims of paternity fraud, meaning that both father and alleged father have often been conned by a woman continuing her charade." and that "Of these, 62% blamed problems with the pill, 19% said it was due to a split condom, and 3% were too carried away to use contraception."

    I wonder how these figures will look them the male pill is refined and released for public use. I heard that feminist had tried to stop the male pill going ahead, and that it was meant to be due in 2005. Though either I cannot find the article or proof, or it has been covered up.
    Do you know where I can find this information. I've looked to the nhs but it doesn't say much more than it is in the trial stages.
    Also if there are any current petitions against the male pill could you direct me to any counter movements? As I'm a firm beleiver in giving men more reproductives rights and options that come with it.

    Forgive me if I do not address your entire post, being a fellow stay at home I'm sure you understand how busy life is in the early years stage.

  13. Here is an interview with a man that developed the male contraceptive pill, which is very revealing:


    From one stay-at-home parent to another, I can empathise with your time constraints.

  14. On the off chance you read this, combining condoms with any type of fertility awareness method (mucus, temperature etc.) has a near 0% failure rate. This study was done in Germany over the course of about 20 years.


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